The only notation ‘software’ that can really be made to do exactly what I want is manuscript; but of course that's time-consuming, a bind to duplicate (let alone to extract parts), and a major operation when one decides to revise & edit etc etc etc.
All these means for notating, including pencil/pen and paper, are tools. I find Finale does most of what I want, although I do occasionally end up modifying my notation (but I like to believe not the actual music) so as to make things easier to achieve in Finale. I suspect, but without any real evidence, that I would do the same if I were using Dorico.
I rather hope that I will be able to keep using Finale and won't have to lose a chunk of whatever active time is left to me (I am now 79) struggling to master new software. Indeed, I suspect that if Finale dies before me, I may return to manuscript fair copies (I've been writing in manuscript for over seventy years and still use it for actual composition) and will leave it to others to sort out any ‘engraving’ that might be considered necessary.